vitaminn-c:

I think this might step on some toes but, let’s talk about mixed kids.

As a black-identifying woman who is multiracial and who is also married to a mixed (non black) poc, therefore we will have kids who are mixed, I’d like to recenter the conversation about multiracial children. 

I see a lot of fetishization of children and I also see a lot of self-exoticfication when it comes to multiracial kids, especially those who are part black and have a black parent. And I feel like the fetishization and the self-exoticfication are both tools used to “other” these kids in a way to give them a badge of supremacy. 

I hear a lot of other multiracial people talk about the “struggle” of being mixed and without failure it almost always revolves around the tired narrative of not fitting in. The story normally goes along the lines of ‘woe is me, it’s so hard being mixed because I am so desired and beautiful and I’m never Black enough for my black side or blank enough for my blank side…. no one accepts me’ And sure, they may not always fit in with everyone ( I mean who does) but when you are mixed, and are apart of the black community you are at the top of the totem pole, like there is privilege there. Maybe you have light skin, maybe you have dark skin with “non typical” black features, maybe you have light hair and light eyes, anything that will make you appear anything other than 100% black is seen as ideal.

So I always find it strange that, that is the go to answer and not, you know, the fact that some of your family members are most likely racist,  you grew up in a racial paradox, you might not know how to take care of your self aesthetically (hair and skin first come to mind and yes, these are 100% serious things), etc. Like lets talk about how anti-blackness is super prevalent in other cultures. Lets talk about how you cant fuck away your racism. Lets talk about how there are so many young black people, especially men who go out and get non black women pregnant just to have a mixed baby for their own disturbing fetish. Lets talk about how a lot of these dudes are trying to create children, specifically little girls, that they would, by their own admission find physically pleasing and would be the type of girl they would date/have sex with. Lets talk about anything other than how the white kids were still racist and didn’t like you, therefore you didn’t fit in with them and how stuck up you were, therefore the black kids didn’t want to be around you as well, and how hard it is to be pretty and light skinned with long hair, etc. 

vitaminn-c:

I think this might step on some toes but, let’s talk about mixed kids.

As a black-identifying woman who is multiracial and who is also married to a mixed (non black) poc, therefore we will have kids who are mixed, I’d like to recenter the conversation about multiracial children. 

I see a lot of fetishization of children and I also see a lot of self-exoticfication when it comes to multiracial kids, especially those who are part black and have a black parent. And I feel like the fetishization and the self-exoticfication are both tools used to “other” these kids in a way to give them a badge of supremacy. 

I hear a lot of other multiracial people talk about the “struggle” of being mixed and without failure it almost always revolves around the tired narrative of not fitting in. The story normally goes along the lines of ‘woe is me, it’s so hard being mixed because I am so desired and beautiful and I’m never Black enough for my black side or blank enough for my blank side…. no one accepts me’ And sure, they may not always fit in with everyone ( I mean who does) but when you are mixed, and are apart of the black community you are at the top of the totem pole, like there is privilege there. Maybe you have light skin, maybe you have dark skin with “non typical” black features, maybe you have light hair and light eyes, anything that will make you appear anything other than 100% black is seen as ideal.

So I always find it strange that, that is the go to answer and not, you know, the fact that some of your family members are most likely racist,  you grew up in a racial paradox, you might not know how to take care of your self aesthetically (hair and skin first come to mind and yes, these are 100% serious things), etc. Like lets talk about how anti-blackness is super prevalent in other cultures. Lets talk about how you cant fuck away your racism. Lets talk about how there are so many young black people, especially men who go out and get non black women pregnant just to have a mixed baby for their own disturbing fetish. Lets talk about how a lot of these dudes are trying to create children, specifically little girls, that they would, by their own admission find physically pleasing and would be the type of girl they would date/have sex with. Lets talk about anything other than how the white kids were still racist and didn’t like you, therefore you didn’t fit in with them and how stuck up you were, therefore the black kids didn’t want to be around you as well, and how hard it is to be pretty and light skinned with long hair, etc.